Goals and Anchors

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Acceptance

We go through our lives trying to be accepted and trying to fit in amongst our friends, in school, at work, after work and pretty much every where we go. No one likes to stand out and be the center of attention, and even those who do (like Lady Gaga), are still in a way, seeking acceptance (from their fans, for example).

Interests

A lot of us go through a major part of adolescence being described as aimless, lazy and lacking ambition. What is actually happening at that point is that (besides acting lazy to gain peer acceptance) we are still trying to discover what interests us. Unless unusual factors are involved, we tend to be subconsciously attracted towards interests that we think will bring us the maximum acceptance.

Purpose

Through the pursuit of interests, each of us finds our life’s calling, or purpose. Some people find their purpose in life early, some convert to lifetime wanderers and yet others find it after years of struggling from one vocation, location or social group to another.

Also consider that some people have purpose thrust upon them, either by circumstance or by dint of not being able to resist peer and/or parental pressure. In extreme cases, they find that their happiness doesn’t correlate with their success (there’s a fine example towards the end of this talk).

Goals

Over time, we break down our lofty purposes into smaller, achievable and measurable goals. Life is all about fitting in unlimited possibilities in limited time, and not all of us will be able to achieve all our goals.

Setbacks will become failures, we will forget to reassess our progress against our plans, more responsibilities will crop up, priorities will change, things will go wrong and we will accept (or consider accepting) defeat. Or the opposite may happen: motivation will become obsession, we will make sacrifices & compromises, one success will lead to another, we will surpass our own expectations and at some point it will all get to our head.

Anchors

And that is why we need anchors. Anchors are the people or the things in our lives which bring everything back into perspective, give us strength, show us sense, restore balance and in general remind us that we are only human. Anchors keep us grounded and safe while we try to soar towards our goals. Just like a tether holds back a hot air balloon from soaring too high than it should. Every morning, we set out to achieve our goals, and whatever be the outcome, every evening we return back to our anchors. They are the unchanging constants in our lives.

If, for some reason, we fail to establish meaningful goal(s) or find suitable anchor(s), we end up filling the void with distorted forms of acceptance such as Fakebook. We start living vicariously through TV. We start believing what we’re told, because we don’t have any beliefs of our own. We lose perspective of reality. We form cults around beliefs. We become ready to do anything, anything at all, just to be accepted. And the worst part is: deep down inside, we all know it.

Find a goal, and never let go of your anchor.

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Success and Enthusiasm

“A man can succeed at almost anything for which he has unlimited enthusiasm.”

-Charles Schwab

I had read this in the newspaper maybe about 5, 6 years ago… I must have forgotten the quote, but the idea stuck in my head. Just came across this again today. A sophisticated way of saying, “Impossible is nothing”.

Life Summarized, In Three Words

It Goes On

Knowledge Is Power

“Knowledge is power.”

-Sir Francis Bacon, 1597

English author, courtier, & philosopher

It’s been quoted to death for centuries, but this sentence keeps taking on a deeper and more relevant meaning as we move towards a society where data flow is boundless, information availability is seamless, and corporations slowly become more powerful than governments because of the knowledge they possess.

Most Powerful 3-Word Quote

“Dreams Drive Deeds”

Corollary: If you can’t find the time for something, then it probably isn’t that important.

The Bangalore Version: “If you have time to spend your money, then you aren’t earning enough.”

Organization, Productivity

I’ve always argued that life is all about unlimited tasks (or possibilities, if you prefer) and limited time. You can either do a lot of things (and still have some left over), or you can do a few things and do them well. As Gandalf the Grey says in The Lord of the Rings, “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. There are other forces at work in this world Frodo, besides good and evil”.

In the end, all that matters is what you did with your time. Success is always projected. “Misdirection. What the eyes see and the ears hear, the mind believes”. That was Gabriel Shear in Swordfish.

In Nature…

“In nature, there are neither rewards nor punishments, only consequences.”

-R. C. Ingersoll